The greatest clarity for adults

is not to easily point out others' problems
including your relatives and friends
First of all, no one likes to be pointed out about their issues
even if you are right
because human nature
naturally perceives pointing out problems
as a form of rejection and suppression
so the more correct you are, the more the other person will resent you
Secondly, everyone has their own ideas and way of life
Most people in this world
actually live in their own world
What you think is considerate of others
may be seen as showing off or acting as a teacher in their eyes
The wise are sparing with their words, only the foolish point out the world
Keeping your mouth shut is wisdom
Controlling your heart is a broad perspective